Finally: How to ask for what you want in bed
Okay I don’t know about you, but I went WAY TOO LONG not asking for what I wanted in bed, resulting in some subpar hookups. Sure, they were fun, but I did not maximize the experiences. Why? Because I was not ASKING FOR WHAT I WANTED IN BED. Why wasn’t I? well it starts with going way too long not not knowing myself what I wanted. Here are some tip for asking for what you want in bed. It’s about time, queens.
Self Reflect. Let’s chat about what it is you want in bed. This takes some time and some self reflection. Are you clear about what makes you feel good and gives you pleasure? If you are, great. If you’re not, then how can you expect others to give you what you want? Take some #selfcaresunday’s and start by just playing with yourself! When you’re ready, move on to some toys for clitoral play (like our Egg-Static) and keep rolling with more penetration (like our Money Bunny).
Actions Speak Louder than Words! If you don’t have an easy time asking people for you want or need, start by showing what it is you want. Your partner will probably find it SUPER sexy when you can show them what it is that makes you feel the * tingles * and once you start, this will make it easier to talk in the future.
Research. Are you thinking about trying something new in bed and figuring out how to communicate this with your partner? Education is key here. Like with everything, the more you can back up what you’re talking about with facts, the more you can sell your topic.
Be Brave! Remember, sex and fooling around is meant to be fun! That’s why you’re both there. The more you practice asking for what you want and what you need, especially in the bedroom, the happier you will be.
Be Open. Some partners may not be receptive to your requests, and that’s okay! They also may need some time to think about your needs, and that’s also okay!
Happy Vibin!