When it comes to stamina in the bedroom, is it really as important as we’re told?

The answer is no, it’s definitely not vital to be able to last forever. There are so many ways to connect with your partner and be intimate, that the act of sex itself is only one small part. If you’re looking to get a better understanding of what’s happening in your body, and learn to control your responses, read on…

First and foremost, you should understand what’s happening in your body when you’re doing the deed.

It Comes Down To Blood Flow.
According to different sexologists, there are between four and six stages of arousal, but they all agree that it starts with blood flow. Blood rushes to the genitals resulting in an erection for men and for women this causes swelling in the clitoris, labia minora, labia majora, and vagina. With stimulation the arousal builds, like moving upwards on a rollercoaster, the more stimulation, the higher you’re pulled up the track, eventually you reach the top and…. Whoosh. The goal here is to make that upward track longer, resulting in a much more thrilling whoosh.

2. Stop, Repeat.

One of the most effective ways to train your body when you’re alone, to last longer. It’s what’s commonly known as “The Start Stop Method.” You bring yourself to the moment before climax and then stop. Wait a few minutes and repeat. Do this a few times before you allow yourself to finish each time you masturbate, and you’ll notice your stamina increase.

If you’d like to extend the amorous activities with a partner, there is a clever way to apply the start stop method in the heat of the moment. When you feel like you’re about to explode, switch back to foreplay, this will not only give you a moment to breathe, but they will enjoy the extra attention. Foreplay can seriously spice up your sex life, so please don’t see it as a ‘preview’ to the main event! By incorporating fun couples toys like our Egg Vibe are designed to be fun and pleasurable for you to enjoy with a partner, with its unobtrusive shape and quiet motor, and 20 vibration patterns, so you can switch to foreplay for a while.

It may sound a bit strange - but breathe. Focusing on your breathing both helps calm down the blood flow, and ever so slightly distracts the brain (the most important sexual organ).

3. Focus on Breathing.

Now, I’m not telling you to go into premeditated breathing exercises when you feel things start to tingle, but when you feel yourself getting close, notice how you’re breathing. Are you breathing rapidly? Slow down your pace as you slow down your breath. Instead of focusing on how things are feeling, focus on your inhale. This will help the blood pumping through you slow down also.

4. Be Kind to Yourself, it takes patience.

Don’t be discouraged if you don’t have the stamina you’d like for yourself yet, as with any other part of your body it takes practice to achieve goals. Using the tools and knowledge available to you makes you more than capable of extending the magic, all it takes is time.

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